Rape-Proofing For Men

It’s not up to women to police themselves in order to stay safe: that’s a man’s job.
Here’s how you do it.

1. Don’t go out alone, especially after dark.


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Many rapes happen when a solitary male comes across a vulnerable woman and claims he cannot control himself. Stay home as much as possible, especially after dark, and avoid the temptation. if you must go out, stay with your group and watch out for each other. Don’t let one of you go home with a woman you don’t know.

2. Don’t drink alcohol or consume recreational drugs on a night out.


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Statistics show that significant numbers of men claim the consumption of these led to a lowering of inhibition and an increase in the desire to rape. Stay off all consciousness-altering substances.

3. Minimise temptation.


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Wear large hoodies that severely limit your peripheral vision, and to reduce the chance you will be exposed to women in provocative clothing even further, always wear very dark sunglasses, even indoors, in the wrong prescription.

4. Use anti-rape products.

A strong lockable reliable chastity device, preferably in stainless steel, may be purchased from your local sex shop. When you go out, leave the key with a trusted person, such as your mother, or vicar.

5. Wear appropriate shoes.

Stilettos, the higher the better, will make it harder to catch a woman running away from you, especially if she is escaping over soft ground. For extra security, choose a pair that are difficult to remove, with complex straps and buckles.

6. Wear reflective clothing.

Anti-rape suit

To avoid inadvertently sneaking up on a vulnerable woman, always wear a top layer of hi-vis reflective clothing outdoors after dark. Or if you can afford it, a customised anti-rape suit. Accessorize with bright LED lamps on hats and belts, and an audible warning device that emits a constant beep. Remember, the more layers of clothing, the more time it will take you to struggle out of it, and the safer any woman near you will be.

7. Don’t rape.


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It sounds ridiculously simple, but this is the single most effective thing you can do to keep women safe. Bet you never thought of that before!

About the author

Veteran gay writer and speaker, Doug was one of the founders of the UKs pioneering GLBTI newspaper Gay News (1972) , and of the second, Gay Week, and is a former Features Editor of Him International. He presented news and current affairs on JOY 94.9 FM Melbourne for more than ten years. "Doug is revered, feared and reviled in equal quantities, at times dividing people with his journalistic wrath. Yet there is no doubt this grandpa-esque bear keeps everyone abreast of anything and everything LGBT across the globe." (Daniel Witthaus, "Beyond Priscilla", Clouds of Magellan, Melbourne, 2014)