Dr Edser, ready for his wedding

the stirrer’s Facebook feed was filled with fury last night
Bitter, angry words at the crude demeaning disrespect visited on us by the Liberals
Dr Stuart Edser is Principal Psychologist at Newcastle Psychology & Health
and author of Being Gay Being Christian. He writes :

A quick note about the debacle that has befallen me tonight in Canberra. Yes, it is about me. This is personal. I am not allowed to get married. My three brothers all did. I am not allowed to. My Dad did not get to see me married. I am angry. My mum is 89 and fragile. She wants to see marriage equality.

I am angry. I have been working or studying, often both, one way or another, since I did my HSC in 1976. I have paid tax the entire time. I have never ever had a hand out from any government. Not once. No baby bonuses for me. I did good work as a High School teacher and managed to inspire some students.

Since then, I have devoted my life to to the study and practice of psychology and counselling. I am sent some of the hardest cases in the city. I do marriage counselling still, when others have turned away from it. I have helped save many marriages that would otherwise have gone by the wayside.

Blowing my own trumpet? Not for a moment. I say these things to remind myself that I, and all the other LGBTQ people around Australia, have been good and beneficial citizens of this wonderful country. I have kept the social contract. And for that, as an LGBTQ person, I am treated as a second class citizen. I still do not have right to marry the man I love.

Both political parties have let us down egregiously. Labor does not get off lightly. One of my heroes Julia Gillard does not get off lightly. Keven Rudd should never be invited to another Labor function as long as he lives. Labor blocked marriage equality when, as the governing progressive party in Australia at the time, it could have done something. But it didn’t. A betrayal.

But I will give Labor credit that it saw the light. I believe in change, otherwise I could not be a psychologist. Labor did change its position and for that, I remain hopeful, and it has stood true on the odious plebiscite question too, to its credit.

As for the LIberal Nationals, I am too angry tonight to write what I really think of them. Let me just say that I think the way they have treated me and my family, and the LGBTQ individuals I know and love, and the many others around the country too plus all their families, is nothing short of treacherous. It is clear the LNP does not give a flying f–k about LGBTQ people.

Their hollow useless leader is a spineless jelly whose tilt at the Prime Ministership deserves to be over sooner rather than later. His is a failed Prime Ministership by any standard. He has squandered his time as Australia’s leader and will regret it for the rest of his life. His much touted gay credentials lie tonight tattered and in ruins after he has allowed his predecessor’s model to continue to reign supreme in the party.

And the moderates all around him, who could have stood beside him in solidarity for progressive values, are also a bunch of cowed beaten pathetic doormats too. They have let the likes of Abetz, Abbott, Bernardi, Andrews, Christensen walk all over them, men who believe that gay people are inferior and that our relationships are not worthy.

I am angry tonight. The LNP has done everything it possibly could short of a coup to stop marriage equality.

We gay people know where we stand. We matter not to these conservative troglodytes. We do not figure.

This LNP Government will go down in history as THE most bigoted, homophobic, anti-gay government in the history of Australia. To night, I can only say that I look forward, with every fibre of my being, to the night, hopefully not too distant hence, when they will be turfed out on their conservative arses and not let back in again for decades. And to that end, I am happy to pledge myself in doing what I can to hasten that longed-for evening.

About the author

Dr Stuart Edser: Psychologist. Author - Being Gay Being Christian. Pianist. Amateur philosopher. LGBTI issues. Aus politics. Theology. Sci Fi. Classical music.